*I like art and academia. Here are my favorite reads, listens, memes, and more from the past seven days.
THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS READING TOO MUCH (RIGHT?)…
LIFESTYLE: 2017 Trends to Ditch Before 2018 (12/27/17 by Avery Matera for Teen Vogue)
(1/3/18 by Heather Havrilesky for The Cut)
Outwardly, you describe everything and everyone as wonderful. Inwardly, you’re preemptively disappointed to the point of wanting to avoid most people and situations. So you’ve chosen to hide. You will go to great lengths never to disappoint yourself, by clearing the lowest hurdles possible. You’re choosing a lifestyle of avoidance and low expectations.
I see this shit every day in other parents: “She hates to read!” “He’s lazy!” “She’s bad at math!” You are imprisoning your kid with your words, fuckers!
I’ll bet you’re not even an introvert at heart. You’re someone who wants to live out loud, share herself with the world, and stop overthinking and delaying and avoiding the pesky little tasks that make up a life.
(1/2/18 by Haley Mlotek for Hazlitt)
After the election, I observed another conversation. They were devastated. Crushed. Their shock was just that, the surprise of realizing they would have to change their understandings of the world, which they did not want to do, not yet, not like this. And I thought: controlled innocence is no different from cynicism. They’re both calculations that allow you to believe you have already learnt everything you will ever know.
“OH, I LOVE NEW YORK”:
(1/4/18 by Greta Gerwig for The New York Times)
But I loved the crowdedness of New York City, how when it rained it seemed like the buildings were raining, not the sky. My mom held my hand tight as she walk-sprinted through the city. She was in her element here; everyone was moving as quickly as she was. She was joyfully sweaty. So was I. The Gerwig women belonged in New York.
In the photographs, my mom is right there beside me, looking like I do now, with her big (slightly gummy) smile and lanky arms and a desire to walk until she can’t walk anymore.
“It’s a great place to have a family” is a true thing that is often said about Sacramento. To be a kid in Sacramento then was to be in the right place at the right time. Nearly everyone had a backyard; some people had pools and even their own personal jungle gyms; you could choose which kids were invited to slide and swim and swing. My mom did not believe in having your own play set. She thought it defeated the point of a playground, which was to make new friends and get comfortable with people who weren’t your family.
(1/6/18 by David Frum for The Atlantic)
Trump may imagine that he’s Michael Corleone, the tough and canny rightful heir — or even Sonny Corleone, the terrifyingly violent but at least powerful heir apparent — but after today he is Fredo forever.
There’s a key difference between film and reality, though: The Corleone family had the awareness and vigilance to exclude Fredo from power. The American political system did not do so well.
(POP) CULTURE: How do you cover red-carpet fashion during #MeToo? The Fug Girls have some ideas (1/7/18 by Constance Grady for Vox)
→ SOCIETY & SOCIOLOGY: "Negging”: the anatomy of a dating trend (5/25/12 by Nicky Woolf for The New Statesman)
→ SOCIETY & SOCIOLOGY: Retired From the Brutal Streets of Mexico, Sex Workers Find a Haven (1/9/18 by Adriana Zehbrauskas for The New York Times)
(POP) CULTURE: The Best and Worst of the Golden Globes (1/8/18 by The New York Times)
→ (POP) CULTURE:
(1/8/18 by Michael Schulman for The New Yorker)
Women, collectively and defiantly, ruled.
“Oprah Winfrey’s speech was galvanizing and important, forward-looking and inclusive: the kind we used to hear from the person running the country.”
SOCIETY & SOCIOLOGY:
(1/8/18 by Thomas Chatterton Williams for The New York Times)
If the first year of the Trump administration has made anything clear, it’s that experience, knowledge, education and political wisdom matter tremendously. Governing is something else entirely from campaigning. And perhaps, most important, celebrities do not make excellent heads of state. The presidency is not a reality show, or for that matter, a talk show.
→ SOCIETY & SOCIOLOGY: Oprah’s Real Message (1/8/18 by Dahlia Lithwick for Slate)
→ SOCIETY & SOCIOLOGY:
(1/9/18 by Doreen St. Félix for The New Yorker)
Obama exploited celebrity, became synonymous with it, and the Obama White House’s embrace of Oprah-inflected gestures — his book and music recommendations; Michelle Obama’s vibrant stewardship of women’s interests — made his one of the more popular Presidencies in history. American voters are excitable souls. Alongside ideological fealty and policy positions, they long for narrative and myth, for Camelot. Trump has deeply perverted this American tradition. But part of the work of levelling a serious Democratic challenge against Trump will be about rescuing it.
(POP) CULTURE: The Bachelor Recap: Pretty Women (1/9/18 by Ali Barthwell for Vulture)
→ (POP) CULTURE: Andi Dorfman didn’t find love on ‘The Bachelorette.’ And in the real world it’s even harder. (1/11/18 by Lisa Bonos for The Washington Post)
→ ADDING TO MY READING LIST FOR LATER: Bachelor Nation: Inside the World of America’s Favorite Guilty Pleasure by Amy Kaufman
(1/10 by Lauren Collins for The New Yorker)
“A woman can, in the same day, lead a professional team and enjoy being the sexual object of a man, without being a ‘slut,’ nor a cheap accomplice of the patriarchy,” they write. “She can insure that her salary is equal to a man’s, but not feel forever traumatized by a frotteur in the Métro.”
Ladies, one of these clauses is not like the others! Consensual sex is no more akin to being rubbed up against in the subway than drinking wine is to being roofied. A woman can fight for equal pay and not like assault, or tuna-fish sandwiches. There’s no connection.
POWER AGAINST THE PATRIARCHY: I Started the Media Men List (1/10/18 by Moira Donegan for The Cut)
→ POWER AGAINST THE PATRIARCHY: This Is What Your Workplace Rage Sounds Like (1/10/18 by Leah Chernikoff for ELLE Magazine)
→ POWER AGAINST THE PATRIARCHY: What You Need to Know About the 2018 Women’s March (1/10/18 by Madison Feller for ELLE Magazine)
→ POWER AGAINST THE PATRIARCHY:
(1/11/18 by Ijeoma Oluo for ELLE Magazine)
To the men scratching their heads in concern and confusion: The rage you see right now, the rage bringing down previously invulnerable men today, barely scratches the surface. You think we might be angry? You have no idea how angry we are.
HUMOR: List: 19 Inevitable New York Times Headlines for When Donald Trump Forgets to Wear Clothes (1/8/18 by Zoe Schwab for McSweeney’s)
SOCIETY & SOCIOLOGY: What the Layoffs Look Like at the Carrier Plant Trump Said He’d Save (7/21/17 by Charles Bethea for The New Yorker)
SOCIETY & SOCIOLOGY:
(1/12/18 by Doreen St. Félix for The New Yorker)
The reactions felt to us somehow both significant and banal: this is the man who launched his campaign by calling Mexican men rapists. What new thing were we learning about him? The strengthening of anti-immigration policies and the stoking of a flamboyantly nationalist vernacular are, we know, victories to him. As my colleague John Cassidy wrote today, it would be “absurd,” by now, to deny that our President is a racist.
→ SOCIETY & SOCIOLOGY: A Racist in the Oval Office (1/12/18 by John Cassidy for The New Yorker)
LIFESTYLE: Improving Ourselves to Death (by Alexandra Schwartz for the 1/15/18 issue of The New Yorker)
“OH, I LOVE NEW YORK”: Tables for Two: The Coveted Thai Cuisine of Ugly Baby (by Jiayang Fan for the 1/15/18 issue of The New Yorker)
“OH, I LOVE NEW YORK”: Dj Hammers on YouTube
(POP) CULTURE: How Camila Cabello Lost Some Friends and Found Her Voice (1/11/18 by Reggie Ugwu for The New York Times)
(1/12/18 by Gabrielle Ulubay for The New York Times)
Not too long after, a man I slept with told me I was beautiful while we were walking to my apartment in the middle of the night. He caressed the back of my hand with his thumb and smiled, but it meant nothing — under the orange glow of streetlights, I knew, even broken glass looks stunning.
THE SONG I CAN’T STOP PUTTING ON REPEAT…
BEST DAMN PICTURES I’VE SEEN ALL WEEK…
I LAUGHED BECAUSE IT’S TOO CUTE…
I LAUGHED (NERVOUSLY) BECAUSE IT’S TOO TRUE…
I EVEN FOUND SOME TIME TO TUNE IN…
The Good: Certain moments from the Golden Globes ceremony (an overall 7/10), such as…
The Bad: The Bachelor (1.5/10) (at least Rachel Zoe was there!)
PERSONS OF IMMENSE INTEREST…
- All you need to know about Zhou Youguang, who Google is celebrating with a doodle
- Remembering the Astronaut Who Smuggled a Sandwich Into Space